Now that your boyfriend has asked you to go on your first vacation together, don’t be too nervous. Even if you aren’t sure if things will move further, as long as you are comfortable and happy around him, go ahead and start the plans. What’s most important is what you share now. Nobody knows about tomorrow. You shouldn’t limit your happiness now because you are afraid of tomorrow’s outcome.
Besides, the fact that you aren’t married yet doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy a memorable vacation together. If that’s what you want, then why not?
Over the same, unlike married couples who are used to being together 24/7 or at least most of the time, going on a vacation with your boyfriend can turn out to be a nightmare instead of a fun adventure if you are not careful. That’s why it’s important to be careful when organizing such a trip.
Thus, if you want to enjoy a memorable vacation with your new boyfriend and come back home stronger than ever before, here’s what you need to do.
1. Agree on the mission before you go
As much as you love each other, be sure to ask tough questions and discuss issues to clear off the air. Please, don’t assume anything. Discuss anything and everything you think is vital from the days you’ll spend, accommodation plans, activities you’ll engage in, places you would love to tour and anything else you intend to do during the vacation. Even the silly ones such as the kind of meals you’ll want to try out are equally important.
Failure to discuss those issues will only strain your relationship because both of you will be on different pages. For instance, maybe you haven’t been intimate all this while and now your boyfriend is thinking this will be a great opportunity to make out whereas you are assuming it’ll be an outing like the ones you’ve had previously.
This can ruin your vacation or even worse, your relationship. If you aren’t ready for sex escapades yet, let him know prior to. It would be very disappointing to go on vacation with both of you on different missions. You’ll fight most of the time instead of having fun and creating memorable moments.
2. Begin with a closer destination
There are many fascinating destinations you would want to visit with your boyfriend but in the beginning, prioritize on a closer destination. Going on an international trip will require a lot of planning, paperwork and a long duration which can all bring a lot of anxiety to both of you. Instead of all the hassle, why not go to a nearby place. It’s convenient, affordable and you’ll still have a good time together.
If the first vacation goes well, you can now plan to travel to a further destination. By this time, you understand each other better, know your likes and dislikes and have gotten used to spending time together. Hence, if you decide to travel to a far destination where you are not familiar with anyone including the surroundings, you’ll still have a good time because your boyfriend’s company is sufficient.
3. Be realistic in your expectations
For crying out loud, this is your boyfriend, you aren’t married yet, why put so many expectations? If you are to cater for your bills separately, don’t feel offended as long as you’ve discussed this previously. Besides, having your own cash will give you the freedom you need to enjoy your vacation. There’s nothing so embarrassing than to keep on asking your boyfriend to foot your bills including some silly things such as buying a mere pretzel.
Also, it doesn’t have to be an extravagant vacation for you to know your boyfriend cares for you. If the destination or the type of accommodation he chooses is not your ideal one, discuss it with him politely. You can even arrange to top up the amount of money missing to afford your ideal vacation. Just ensure you don’t make him feel like you don’t appreciate what he is doing to make you happy.
4. Prepare a reasonable to-do list
Of course, you are excited about the coming trip. However, if you overload your to-do list, you’ll be overwhelmed along the way. You won’t even enjoy the vacation because you’ll constantly be thinking of where you’re supposed to be next instead of enjoying what you are currently doing. If this will be the trend, you will have strained vacation time.
5. Accommodate him
Accommodating your boyfriend means you understand that this is not a solo trip. So you can’t be engaging in the things you like without caring if your boyfriend is enjoying it or not. Doing such will only portray you as a selfish girlfriend and don’t be surprised if it costs you your relationship. Again, if you know you are a control freak, it would be better to let your boyfriend take charge just to ensure you don’t go overboard.
This is a vacation for two people. Be prepared to do something you don’t really like. Your boyfriend will probably also do something he doesn’t like just to make you happy. This is what marriage entails anyway. So, if you intend to take your relationship to the next level, things will be easier for you.
Moreover, doing something you haven’t done before or doing it in a different setup can give you many unforgettable experiences. That’s the beauty of travelling with someone else; you get to learn new things and reach to places you wouldn’t have thought could be that fun.
6. Agree on the destination
Don’t be selfish when it comes to choosing the destination to travel to. Listen to each other’s dream vacations, compare the notes and agree on one destination. It may be an uphill task but because you love each other, sacrificing your desires a little bit shouldn’t be a big problem. If he wants a destination he can enjoy hiking but you want to go to the beach, you can agree to choose a destination with both adventures. That way, both of you will be happy and your needs will have been satisfied.
Enjoy the moment
That’s the power of a well-organized trip. It creates lifetime memories. Memories you’ll remember as your defining moment should you decide to take your relationship to the next level and get married. So, what are you waiting for? This could be what your relationship is waiting to open the next chapter. When you finally hit the road, make sure you enjoy it to the fullest. If you waste the awesomeness of being in a new destination with someone you love and fail to have fun, you’ll have yourself to blame later when the vacation is over!